Say What You Mean
THE FIRST AGREEMENT: "Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity and say only what you mean. Through the word you express your creative power. Regardless of what language you speak, your intent manifest through your word."  ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
By Dennis Merritt Jones, D.D.
Author of
THE ART OF BEING, 101 Ways To Practice Purpose In Your  Life

Don Miguel Ruiz's suggestion that we be "impeccable with our word" is by far one of the most powerful ways to ensure that our lives remain in spiritual integrity.

In truth, our word is far more than what comes out of our mouths; it represents what we stand for. In and of themselves, our words are but symbols that represent our intentions.Sometimes we have a tendency to say things we don't really mean.That holds true for some of the less than loving things we might say to others in a heated moment of thoughtlessness, as well as those 'people pleasing moments' when we give compliments that are not really sincere. In addition, sometimes people make commitments and promises to others, never intending to keep them.

My point is this: Irrespective of what we are saying and to whom we are saying it,
quite often the words don't really symbolize what the underlying intent is. However the reality is; in either case, we are still using the power of our word (backed by intention) to declare to the universe that for which we stand. The universe doesn't hear words, it senses our feelings and the intention behind the words...and says yes to our intentions. Therefore, if our intentions are dishonorable, or simply cloudy and confused, it has to show up in the body of our relationships. To be "impeccable in our word" is to bring our spoken word AND our unspoken intention into alignment so that the inner thought and the outer action are the same. When this happens, we find ourselves living in true spiritual integrity, actually integrating the awareness of God's presence into, not just our words but our intentions and actions as well.

What will you declare to the universe you stand for today by means of your intentions and words?

Copyright 2007 New Reality Press

The universe doesn't hear words, it senses our feelings and the intention behind the words.

MINDFULNESS PRACTICE FOR TODAY: Become an impartial observer of your own thoughts and words spoken to others, and be keenly aware of what the intention is behind the words you say. If you find yourself saying one thing while thinking or feeling another thing, stop and realign with God in that holy instant. Don't compromise your integrity by being less than impeccable with your word. You will discover you like the person gazing back at you in the mirror even more.

Peace, Dennis Merritt Jones, D.D.
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