Argue for Your Limitations. . .

Argue for Your Limitations and They are Yours

Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right! 
~ Henry Ford
By Dennis Merritt Jones, D.D.
Author of
THE ART OF BEING, 101 Ways To Practice Purpose In Your  Life

Few will disagree with the fact that we are being pummeled daily by the media with how 'bad' things are today. If we are not mindful, it's easy to get seduced into agreement with that opinion because the evidence seems to be so overwhelming. As a mindfulness practice, I have been giving a lot more attention to the words that come out of my mouth. When I listen very closely, I continue to amaze myself that even after thirty plus years of studying the power of the universe and how it supports my deepest beliefs, at times, I still catch myself agreeing with the prognosticators of doom. I can hear it reflected in my conversations with others. After some self-inquiry, I discovered why it is so seductive to agree with negative news: It makes it easier to come up with justifiable excuses for what may be going on in our lives at any particular moment that is less than wonderful. In other words, it makes what's not working in our lives more acceptable to ourselves and others. When we buy into that belief it is like baiting the trap of a self-fulfilling prophesy into which we then step. Once, many years ago I heard my teacher say, "Argue for your limitations and they are yours." Understanding the way the universe works, I think there is profound wisdom in those words.

If we are totally honest with ourselves we will admit that it is often far easier to live with our discomforts and challenges than it is to initiate the mindfulness to become the conscious observer of our beliefs, thoughts and actions that may be supporting them. Why? Because once we are faced with the conscious awareness that we may be thinking 'down' rather than up, we become responsible for changing our perspective, and change is something most of us avoid at almost any cost, including our inner peace, joy, health and sense of fulfillment.

If we are totally honest with ourselves we will admit that it is often far easier to live with our discomforts and challenges than it is to initiate the mindfulness. . .

Mindfulness Practice
I invite you to take a moment for some self-inquiry. What are you thinking right now about these ideas? What are you thinking about the challenges or apparent limitations in your experience today? Take a look at those areas in your life where you might unknowingly be arguing for your limitations by justifying why things are the way they are rather than challenging them. If you find that you are settling for certain limitations and the restrictions they bring rather than challenging them and moving in a proactive manner to improve them, pause and examine the logic of it all. Look at your physical and emotional health, relationships, finances, career and even your spiritual growth. If there is a sense of limitation in any of these areas, check in with yourself and see what you find. Listen closely to your habit thoughts and especially your words spoken. Are you arguing for your limitations? This is an important first step in changing your life forever because the universe has is always listening and it can't take a joke! The blessing and the curse of the universal Law of Cause and Effect is that it only knows one word: YES! Truly, argue for your limitations and they are yours.

Rather than arguing for your limitations by buying into what the purveyors of doom may be selling this week, celebrate your possibilities by remembering you are one with a universe which always affirms for you that which you affirm for yourself. What do you think you can or cannot do with your life today? Think again and know that either way you are right!

Peace, Dennis Merritt Jones, D.D.
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